Wednesday, October 10, 2007

Sorry It's Been So Long!

Okay, I know I'm a blogging slacker! Sorry! There just hasn't been a lot of big news to report. Eden continues to grow in her attachment to us by leaps and bounds. I started leaving her in the nursery at church once a week about 3 weeks ago and it seems this was the next "right" step for her emotionally. She has done great, AND, more importantly, she has been showing unsolicited affection like CRAZY to both Gene and me.

I think she needed to "miss" me so she could feel the love that is growing in her heart. I'm not leaving her much at all. In fact, I chose to leave her at our Sunday night service as opposed to Sunday mornings because there are fewer children, the same teacher every week, and the teacher is a close friend that Eden is around with us quite often. I won't leave her in Sunday morning nursery for another month or so until she is secure that when I leave her there, I always come back for her. Here's the thing...it may not bother her at all to be left on Sunday mornings, but I choose to err on the side of caution. Some people kind of roll their eyes at me like I'm making too big of a deal about it because she seems so "normal" on the outside to everyone who sees her. But, I have learned in the few short months that I've had her that God chose me as her mommy out of thousands of other women who are waiting for children in China for a reason. She didn't just need anyone, she needed me. My instincts towards her are God-given and Spirit-led. So, I just let people roll their eyes, tell them they may be right, and then do what I think is best for her. We as moms have to do what is best for our children. It's not a one-size-fits-all thing to raise little ones, is it?

Here's the downside to "erring on the side of caution." I have not been to a worship service since before we left for China on July 15. I work in the nursery on Sunday nights so I can't attend the service then. So, I am SO happy that this week I will attend my first service! Eden adores her Aunt KK (my sister Kelly) and so she is going to rotate services with me since we have 2 on Sunday mornings and watch Eden for me while I go. This will be another good step for Eden since Kelly and her husband Matt will be our "go-to" babysitters much of the time. It's so great to have them here in town! This will give Eden and I both the best of both worlds. Eden can have the familiar environment I believe she needs right now, and I can worship corporately with my brothers and sisters that I have missed so much!

I do have a prayer request for Eden. She will have surgery this Friday (Oct. 12) to put tubes in her ears and clip a membrane underneath her tongue. It is same-day surgery and shouldn't be a big deal. But, with the fragile bond we are building, any trauma is a bigger deal than normal. Just pray that she feels safe and secure and that God will use this to drive her closer to Gene and me. Surgery is scary for any child, so please pray for her physically and emotionally.

Thank you all so much for your prayers! I'll update Friday when we arrive home from the hospital.

3 comments:

Buffi Young said...

You're doing a great job Keri!! We'll be praying for you guys!!!
Love ya,
Buffi

Anonymous said...

How right you are about God's "mommy knows best" instincts. Eden is precious and is amazing in all her skills, but the one thing that just takes your heart is the way she looks at you and says "mama". How sweet to watch her heart being knit together with you! I will be praying on Friday and look forward to hearing from you when you get home. Give her a big kiss for me!
Love,
Hunny

The Ferrill's said...

Okay, where are the pictures? :)
I have had to get over the "I'm going to explain myself the best I can so people can understand" factor. Now, I just do what I know is best and get on with it. I am having so much fun being a mommy to these six children. I LOVE just being a wife and mommy. All my other responsibilities have faded in the background to these most important roles! I know yall are enjoying this fall weather...so where's the pics? :)
Love,
Laine